Exhaustion is a common reality for neurodivergent kids.
For many neurodivergent children, aka Orchid Kids, the school week can be an overwhelming experience that leads to exhaustion. While school offers valuable opportunities for learning and socializing and some Orchids like it, school is hard and can leave Orchid Kids feeling drained by Friday. Here’s how you can help your neurodivergent child rest and recharge, and consider if adjustments to their routine might support them better.
1. Recognize signs of exhaustion
Orchid Kids may display exhaustion differently than other children. Some may come home and shut down, preferring quiet time alone. Others may exhibit heightened sensitivities, increased meltdowns, or become particularly irritable. These are signals that their energy tank is low, and they need rest and comfort to recover. You’ve seen it, and once you have, you can expect it as a predictable challenge.
2. Keep weekends restorative and low-key
Orchid Kids often benefit from downtime that lets them truly unwind after a demanding school week. On the weekends, prioritize quiet, low-stimulation activities that allow them to decompress. This might mean taking a break from structured activities, such as playdates, birthday parties, or lessons, in favor of unstructured play, time in nature, or favorite activities. The goal is to help them recharge, free from the sensory and social demands of school. That BounceU birthday party with 278 kids? Optional! Skip it.
3. Foster open communication
Feeling understood is crucial for Orchids. Spending time together – even if you’re not talking – will let your Orchid know you’re there for them. They might even open up (or not – it’s all good). Many neurodivergent kiddos don’t easily articulate their feelings, so you’ll probably need to look for behavioral clues. Remember too that “I wonder” statements can, well, work wonders.
4. Prioritize sleep and sensory-friendly routines
Orchid Kids often experience the world more intensely, making quality sleep essential for their well-being. To avoid exhaustion, make sure they have a consistent bedtime routine with calming, sensory-friendly activities that help them transition to sleep, like reading together, soft music, or a gentle sensory toy. When you can, prioritize bedtime consistency – even (especially) on the weekends.
5. Evaluate their after-school routine for exhaustion triggers
Consider what after-school routines are supportive vs. overwhelming. Orchids might need extra time to transition from school to home, maybe with some quiet time alone, a favorite hobby, or time outdoors. Avoid jumping straight into homework or structured activities unless they show interest. Giving them a break allows their nervous system to reset and build resilience for the next day. Reducing homework to time-based rather than task-based measures might also help lessen exhaustion. Set a timer for 10 minutes of homework rather than expecting kiddo to sit until that damn math homework is all the way finished.
6. Ask if the school schedule is working for your child
This one might be scary, but consider assessing whether the current schedule truly fits your child’s needs. Some Orchid Kids thrive on a lighter or modified school schedule. If your child regularly suffers from exhaustion, it may be worth exploring alternatives. Talk with your child’s school to see if options like a shorter day or reduced weekly hours might be possible. If you can make it work, reducing school time can lead to a happier, more engaged child who benefits more from focused, meaningful learning experiences.
7. Simplify extracurriculars to prevent exhaustion
Orchid Kids often have lower sensory and social thresholds, making too many extracurriculars more draining than enriching. Evaluate whether all current activities align with their needs and well-being. Cutting back can mean a chance to focus on fewer, more meaningful experiences, leaving more time to rest and enjoy downtime, especially at the end of a school week.
8. Model and teach self-care
Teaching your Orchid Kid to recognize their own needs for rest and self-care is one of the best gifts you can give. Encourage them to listen to their body, know when they need breaks, and explore ways to self-regulate through movement, sensory tools, or special interests. When children understand that it’s okay to slow down, they learn valuable skills for resilience and self-compassion.
Exhaustion can be managed!
Helping your Orchid manage school fatigue involves compassion, understanding, and sometimes, a willingness to adapt. By exploring ways to adjust their school schedule and advocating for their needs, you can create an environment that supports their unique growth and happiness. Embracing these changes can be a powerful way to help your Orchid Kid thrive.
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